Dating Tips for You by Nocita Carter


Reviewed by Douglas R. Cobb

Dating Tips for You by Nocita CarterDating: Love it, hate it–we’re all either eventually going to date, have dated with varying degrees of success, or are married or in a relationship currently, but possibly one day in the future, will end up dating again. There are lots of different self-help and dating books that have been published to make the success you have at dating more likely than if you, to use a baseball metaphor, just keep swinging at the ball and missing it again and again. One book that I’ve read lately that is short, to the point, and contains numerous informative and useful tips on dating is Dating Tips for You by Nocita Carter. Though I am married, I saw many tips that would have been useful for me to know while I was dating, and ones which my teen daughter likely will find useful to know.

Different books focus on different aspects of dating. This book covers many topics that anyone embarking on wanting to meet someone they will want to have fun with and maybe share their lives with at some point down the road either have run into, or will, such as who should pay the bill on a date, or if the cost should be split. There are many schools of thought on this, because the man might feel as a man it’s his responsibility to pay for the bill. However, the woman may not want to feel as if, by the man paying for the bill, that she is then obligated to have sex with him. A happy medium the author mentions is that the two people might agree to switch off, one paying for the first date, the other, for the second.

Other topics include if you should date your boss or a coworker, if it’s a good idea to date your neighbor, if dating for fun with no commitment is for you or not, and if your date should meet your family and friends. As to the last topic I mentioned, doing it right away is generally not good, as it puts a lot of pressure on everyone involved. Whenever you do have your boyfriend or girlfriend meet your friends or parents, you should let them know or warn them about certain things that might be touchy subjects, or things that might make for sources of conversation during dinner, for instance.

Another section containing dating tips that many people should find beneficial is one about dating tips for those who are middle aged or senior citizens who, for whatever reason(s), are dating once again. The author gives the encouraging words of advice that: “You should go for it! You’re never too old to date.” This is very true. You may feel like you have too much baggage, but everyone picks up baggage over the years. It’s sometimes best to not dwell on the past, yours nor your date’s, and to just think about the present and the future you may have together.

One of the biggest fears that anyone at any stage of his/her life has when dating is the fear of rejection. The author gets into this at various points throughout the book. “Nothing ventured, nothing gained,” is my take on the author’s advice. As Nocita Carter writes: “You’ve got to start somewhere.” There can never be a second or third date, after all, without a first one.

Dating Tips for You by Nocita Carter presents clear, concise, informative, no-nonsense, and useful dating tips for people in almost every dating circumstance. It’s a book you’ll want to look back on and refer to at different points in your dating life, whether you have questions about the best method to get a person’s phone number, or if it’s okay to ask a friend out on a date, or if you want to know tips about how to get a conversation started on a date. If you’re looking for a useful reference source about dating tips, it would be difficult to find a better book than Dating Tips for You by Nocita Carter.

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